Living Life with Minimal Stress
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Stress is simply the body’s non-specific response to any demand made on it. Stress is not by definition synonymous with nervous tension or anxiety. So how do you live life with less stress?
It is important to remember that stress, in certain forms, is normal and essential. Whatever the stressor is, it requires the body to make physical and chemical adjustments in order to maintain the necessary physiological balance for survival. These adaptations have also been called the “fight-or-flight response.” This can typically be observed as a rise in blood pressure, increased rate of breathing and heart rate, and dilated pupils. After the threat has passed or a change has taken place, the “alarm” signs disappear. The body is still aroused but is adapting to the change. However, if high levels of stress continue, the energy to adapt is depleted. At this point, exhaustion occurs, causing damage to the person’s physical and emotional well-being.
Our lives are filled with many demands that continue over a long period of time. Demands such as work overload may result in negative stress, which is called distress. Unrelieved stress can take an emotional as well as a physical toll, in the form of anxiety or depression, high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, heart disease, ulcers, allergies, asthma, or migraine headaches. If unattended, stress can seriously damage physical health, psychological well-being, and relationships with friends, family and coworkers.
How do you know you are stressed?
Not all symptoms of excessive stress can be observed easily. Individuals that are stressed may use some of the statements below to express their state:
“I can’t keep my mind on my work.”
“I can’t relax.”
“I feel all tied up in knots.”
“I feel miserable, and I don’t know why.”
Other possibilities of recognizing that you are stressed are the following:
A door slammed a little too hard
Lots of fault-finding and bickering
An overpowering sense of fatigue
A constant state of turmoil
If you are still wondering if you suffer from increased stress, some early warning signs include:
Changes in sleep pattern or constant insomnia
Elevated heart rate
Increased blood pressure
Marked change in appetite or sex drive
Exaggerated, out of proportion anxiety
Lack of enjoyment of life
Pain in neck and/or lower back
Poor emotional control
Withdrawal from responsibility
Increased accident proneness
Susceptibility to illness
Severe feelings of helplessness and dependency
Stress management strategies
1. Time Management
It is important for you to prioritize the important things in life. Use a daily planner, keep track of what you have to do and what your are doing. Ensure you set aside time for yourself. Determine the most productive time of the day and schedule the tasks you enjoy the least or your most difficult assignments for that time. Keep organized, this will save time on looking for things.
2. Lifestyle Changes
Exercise: Start some form of exercise that you enjoy, preferably something that brings you into contact with other people. Ensure that it is done three times a week for about 20 minutes to two hours. Over a period of time, cardiovascular exercise will benefit the heart, lungs, and arteries and result in biochemical changes that elevate your mood and encourage a healthy self-concept. The best cardiovascular fitness program involves daily aerobic or rhythmic, repetitive exercise three times a week, e.g., running, brisk walking, cycling, swimming, rowing, aerobic dancing, and cross country skiing.
Diet: Be moderate in everything you do and consume. This includes coffee, tea, soft drinks, and drugs containing caffeine. Caffeine stimulates the sympathetic nervous system and may promote even more nervousness and tension. Eat an adequate and nutritious breakfast each day, consuming at least one fourth of your daily calories and nutrients at breakfast. Eat healthy snacks, take along some fruits and vegetables, nuts, or yogurt, and do not suffer the consequences of missed meals and fat-laden fast food binges. Hunger can increase irritability and hence leave you less able to cope with stress.
Sleep: Make sleep a priority, get at least seven (7) hours of sleep each night. You may have to sacrifice social events or household chores, but don’t skimp on sleep, this time is very important for rejuvenating your mental and physical energies.
Meditation: Practice some form of relaxation or meditation. Remember any form of continuous activity can be meditative if you so desire. Therefore, riding a bike, walking, running, swimming, prayer, chanting a word or mantra continuously are all forms of meditation.
Take control: Try not to let one thing dominate your actions or thoughts. Do not harshly lay blame on yourself if something does not go the way you intended. Remember everything should be looked at as a lesson. Look at life as full of challenges, not burdens.
Positivity: Associate with positive people whom you enjoy being with and support you.
"Me-time": set aside time for yourself everyday — THIS IS A MUST.
Ensure that you are calm when discussing problems. Define your needs and make certain that others are aware of how you feel. Listen to another’s point of view and feelings and then work with the person you are in discussion with to formulate a solution. Do not criticize their ideas. Once a solution has been agreed upon, re-evaluate the tried solution to ensure that it has fulfilled everyone’s needs.
Respect yourself and others: Respect yourself and others by protecting your personal freedoms and space. Do what you want and feel, but respect the rights of others. Don’t tell others what to do, but if they impose let them know.
Have an outlet: When something begins to bother you, have someone that you can talk to and that will listen.
5. Be Realistic
Set reasonable and achievable goals.
Some relaxation techniques that may help you:
Most of us have learned to breathe from our chests. Yet, belly breathing is the natural way, and a good stress-reducing habit. Sit or lie comfortably in a relaxed position. As you slowly breathe in, let your belly expand—think of it as a balloon you are filling with air. As you exhale, let the air out of your “balloon” slowly. Place your hands on your stomach. You should feel it rise and lower as you breathe.
In a relaxed position, breathe through your nose, easily and naturally, eyes closed. As you breathe out think “one.” As you breathe in, think “one.” Continue for 10 to 20 minutes, but do not watch a clock, just think “one.” If your mind wanders, gently pull it back to thinking “one” every time you exhale, “one,” every time you inhale. After 10 to 20 minutes, sit quietly for a few minutes more, with your eyes open. Don’t worry about doing it “right.” Relaxation will happen; allow it. Do this once or twice daily.
Try to touch your ears with your shoulders. Hold this for a count of 4. Then let your shoulders drop. Now rotate each shoulder separately toward the rear. Do each shoulder 5 to 10 times. Then do both shoulders together.
Lie down on your back, preferable on a firm surface. You will begin to contract and relax all the muscles in your body. Beginning with your feet, contract the muscles in your feet and then relax them. Now contract the muscles in your legs and thighs, and relax them. Move to your abdominals, low back, chest, upper back, arms and then neck. Now work your way down. After this sit and think of nothing for a few minutes.
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